One of the things that is very grounding about the Christian faith is that there is not only truth/Truth we follow, but hopefully a willingness to pursue disciplines that either a) aren’t comfortable, or b), may not necessarily make sense immediately.  This is very helpful in therapy when clients don’t throw up resistance to the […]

I had no plans to write this article today on loss and suffering.  But the more I ponder the life and legacy of “Papa” and the times we are in, I believe more and more it’s a message to share.  When hurting and suffering takes over and the complexities of life are weighty, I believe […]

A common question I get is, “What if I get overwhelmed before we meet next?”  If we have ruled out serious risks dealing with safety, usually there’s a simple tool that can seriously help (while working the treatment plan).  Through the study of the brain, human behavior, and feedback from clients, here is a ripcord to pull in […]

My daughter Hattie went into hoarding mode this Halloween.  Within 5 minutes, she was in MEGA-CUMULATION mode.  Emily and I got some good parenting moments; “Hattie, you can choose 2 items from that basket.”  (We had to say that about 30 times.) I laugh often when she’s around food, toys, or playground equipment- like an […]

Teddy pumped the sanitizer bottle for the second time in three minutes.  “I know, I know, it doesn’t help when I haven’t touched anything else, but I want to be sure.  You never know these days, right?”  Freda waits to enter gatherings and meetings until everyone else has shown up- “It just helps me know I […]

I recorded a full length episode for the OCD Stories with Stuart Ralph, based in London, this summer.  He just dropped the final version.  You can listen FREE on all streaming platforms. One of my goals was to speak in a way where most people could connect or find something beneficial in this podcast.  I hope you enjoy! […]

How much do you charge? This is a very loaded question, indeed.  I’m going to give you straight answers to how much therapy actually costs, and why.  If you are a consumer of health services, you’ve likely asked it many times between doctors, dentists, and insurance plans.  Therapy is no different, yet it is unique […]

Experiment:  Look at the picture above.  What do you feel?  Those feelings are real.  However, how you interpret what you feel makes all the difference (whether you think cats are cute, a nuisance, practical, fun, allergic fur balls, or pure joy). I see a common phrase that goes around: “Feelings are not facts.”  While I agree […]

The unforgivable/unpardonable sin (also called the eternal sin or blasphemy against the Holy Spirit) can induce some level of fear for even the most convinced of Christians.  To the person who gets stuck on the concept, such as in OCD, Generalized Anxiety, and/or scrupulosity, misery would not be too strong of a word to describe it.  Personally, I suffered for several years […]

America today sees one of the highest levels of anxiety of any place in the world.[1] We are clamoring for attention online, wanting to be seen, to be loved.  Suicides by teens and young adults appear to be higher than they’ve been in years.[2]  We are the wealthiest nation on the face of the planet,[3] and we can’t […]

“You want me to do what?!” Many of my clients, and particularly for the sake of this article, Christian clients, are a bit surprised when I ask them to practice exposure.  Repeating scary, terrible thoughts on paper or aloud.  Doing things that feel risky.  It seems as a clinician I’m disrespecting your beliefs and don’t […]

Imagine intentionally telling yourself- again and again- “Maybe I’ll get sick and die.”  Or, “I’ll have a sudden urge to kill someone.” Or, “Maybe I blasphemed God and will go to hell.”  What if your therapist asked you to repeat these things to yourself?  Does that sound like negative self-talk?  A cause for grave concern?  […]

“You need to pray about that.”  “Resist those thoughts; they are from the enemy.”  “Don’t think on such things.”   I often hear confusion from Christians on how to engage- or not engage- with fear based thoughts, urges, and sensations.  This led me to do a deep dive into Scripture to see if there are […]

In advance of the full episode of the OCD Stories podcast being released Fall 2020, Stuart Ralph released a special members only listen.  I hope you’ll check it out.   COMING SOON- the OCD Stories podcast episode with Stuart Ralph

When we recently moved to the house we are currently in, we got an extra bonus with some “smart home” features.  Far from a ‘techie,’ I quickly got frustrated in the first week.  When I didn’t know how most of it worked, I began to become irritable.  This is not a growth, learning, or curiosity […]